please let me know which option you prefer

Sometimes I close with thanks for reading. Like the OP says: The addition of please advise feels demanding and bratty and of course redundant. It openly pisses people off. Friday, 1/28: 10am - 12pm EST; 2pm - 4pm EST. With no punctuation. So now I have a bit of a visceral reaction to that one. I just mean I normally expect people to help me help them, by either spelling out the issue, and ideally by proposing at least one potential solution. You guys are amazing. However, the flight I was supposed to send it on was cancelled. Nor could she understand why having a staff member walk 500m in the dark would be a problem. ", Human who is reviewing my question not automated machine. Im still unconvinced that it is bad form. Ive actually built a macro into our corporate chat program where I type (512 and it expands into (512) 123-4567 or tell me your # and Ill call you. When I see it, I interpret it as, I dont expect you to have any objections or questions to this, so the next thing I should be sending you is my thanks to you for letting me know its done, and Im just going to get that out of the way right now. I make allowances in my head for the possibility that the sender doesnt actually mean that, but I always give a little mental grrr when I see it. 1. In my job, emails are often used as official business communiques. She said the word alright way too much. Yes, just a little reminder at the end of the email that you cant proceed without input. Ummmmmmm. It was impossible not to notice. Good morning SARA! Or speaking whale a la Dory in Finding Nemo. (they also talk about how many sleeps it will be until they do this or that which to me is cloying baby talk but then so is brekky, prezzie and many other phrases the British are fond of. I used to have to deal extensively with someone brusque, arrogant, demanding, and (based on her emails) borderline illiterate, and she regularly used plz advise. Those additional three keystrokes were apparently just a bridge too far for her. Watch the video and let me know which one you prefer! Although I would agree that there are worse email offenses. I use Please advise (and have taken it from others in the same grain in which I use it) more along the lines of I am not moving forward with any of this until you have your input on the matter. Maybe Ive been annoying folks all along without even knowing it. Current Job involves getting buy-in and approvals from various far-flung parts of Big Bank whose employees are generally overworked, overwhelmed, or just dont know/care about Current Job, because Big Bank manages crisis-to-crisis without ever resolving underlying structural issues because hey, why should they? I dont intend to sound bratty or condescending when I use it, I just have trouble finding a closer and email etiquette says that I should every. No errors on these teapots. As in, The task youve given me is physically impossible. In most cases, I find that the person writing this at the end of an email already asked me a question in the email. So I just associate it with management instructions. Addressing specific people is key to getting the work done. I find it offensive and passive-aggressive. How do you feel about emails that say, Just wanted to let you know that blah blah blah.? Yikes, I learned to do this when I worked in a law firm and often end emails this way. Monday . I dont think its such a terrible phrase until someone inevitably writes please advice. Is it possible that your reaction is based off your feelings in your role and the office dynamics? By describing the problem and outlining the requested solution, the rest of your email is already telling me to do the needful. i think i use all the examples described so far, and its not really my problem if you find them annoying. She still did not understand. Thanks! 2. })(window, document);Cookie Policy(function (w, d) { If my calls and emails have been ignored, I will politely include this phrase. Please let us know you thoughts on this. And you could argue that business email is its own special little dialect. I advise that the order is held and you request an investigation. This answer is: Hide . Honestly, please advise drives me crazy too, but I 100% admit its because of who I associate with it. Its really good to conserve on Es, so that future generations may have some. I think this came up in the open thread recently too. If you say -- How would you like to proceed -- then that is a question you should say -- How you would like to proceed. It is Something That Is Not Done in our culture (which tends to be very email/IM-focused). Yeah, Ive messaged people to see if they were available for a phone call, but I would say, Can I call you? and make the call myself, instead of insisting they call me. I am in change management and I ruffle enough feathers. I have ever heard Americans use the baby talk it is just 5 sleeps until we arrive at Disney World but I suppose they will pick it up since it is used so often by British travelers on line. I dislike the gentle reminder it feels patronizing to me. I wonder what would happen if you just said no to Can I ask you a question for a few days. I alwaya say friendly reminder. If necessary it becomes friendly but urgent! To me, its off puttingly brusque to say, reminder, I need this by friday, or your veeblefitz report is late, I need it asap. But then, Im from the Say-outh, where we use lots of words to hide displeasure. Its just a . Ok, I know its old but BUT really. Please advise doesnt phase me a bit, although I usually go for please clarify or please let me know your thoughts. if (w.addEventListener) { Its work. I tell myself. If I put FYI instead, they know they dont need to reply to me. The How do I save a word file is not a literal question thats happened, but very close. I have to admit Im looped in on a lot of emails that make me think, Uhhhh . or Request you to note the dates and let us know way forward. This will save me on average X amount of time per day. One of the problems with "Please advise" is that advise is a transitive verb, that is, it must have an object. I often see Please advise abused to avoid doing either of the above! Oh, the fun we would have with their frequently used terms. Lots of possible transfers options for GW23. That would make me investigate accordingly and resolve as applicable and reply with details of any action taken. managers. Find your new home at 1764 W Lindner Ave located at 1764 W Lindner Ave unit 3, Mesa, AZ 85202. And I put down the pencil, and I turned over the piece of paper, and there, there on the other side in the middle of the other side away from everything else on the other side in parentheses capital letters quotated read the following words: (KID, HAVE YOU REHABILITATED YOURSELF?), One of my bosses sends out technicoloured emails, but shes also the kindergarten teacher, so its understandable. EmilyG, can you reboot the X server because it appears to be down and I need to work on Y. TIA! was reasonable enough. yeah I agree. Which one do you prefer? I dont think the IM itself is what AMG is referring to its when the person IMing then wants you to be the one to call them, even though theyre the one who wants something. Makes my blood boil. if you need. I agree with the response, the person is merely probably wrapping up the email. My HTML brain cells went out for a moment. If it sounds normal and polite out loud, I think its fine to use in an email. And, since it apparently means please do what it takes to fulfill my request, I have a feeling that, even if it translated well into English, itd still drive people up the wall. I tend to agree, yet, I can have a hard time applying this idea sometimes. [.] I admit that I have a visceral reaction to the use of the words please advise (and ALL CAPS and soft reminders and read receipts). And I definitely wouldnt instruct others not to do it, since its really just a personal preference on your part, not a rule thatthey should be following in general. Certainly, sometimes you have a new employee, a weird problem, etc. It drives me batty. My boss does that same thing, but she puts the most random words in all caps, and puts everything on an individual line. No. That makes sense to me. One of our experts will correct your English. For some reason, were constantly begging our lawyer to (pretty) please (and only should the stars align to create no personal inconvenience to him) advise (on this legal matter with respect to which were paying him a hefty fee). Especially if Im just showing up to help a busy desk (I work at a public library), it seems a lot more annoying to just plonk down behind the station and stare expectantly at the line until someone comes over to me. Please advise. Or How do I save a word file? From coworker A, I dont give it a second thought. I cant see it however the email had the comment. Its my way of succinctly saying Listen up, you pompous twit this is the fifth and last time Im going to respond to something that you were supposed to handle three weeks ago. when i worked in a university advising office the front desk clerks would send out emails saying x people in queue please advise as a way to remind everyone they should be advising students or if it had suddenly gotten really busy. OP, yes, you are definitely interpreting it differently than it is intended. Battle #1: people who reply all to large groups with Please remove me from this email list I do use IM chats for quick questions. I think thats kind of the same though I mostly get those when Im out of the office, and take it as a sign that theyre not expecting me to be available to take calls at any particular moment. I dont usually go for five opening questions before my real question, especially in instant messaging. Yep. It still sounds like you think the person will otherwise take offense to the message. Can I help the next person in line? is much better. Only because the former co-worker that sent it was constantly nagging me and it felt like she was using it in lieu of I need your input on this now. 8. There must be a lot of secretly snotty people in the South who are thinking mean things when they say Bless your heart, but Im glad Ive not met them. Although to be honest, if Im sending my boss an FYI email I usually indicate that. which is so dumb, like Im thanking them for giving me work? I use please advise sometimes with my boss always when Im expected to make a judgment call that Im not sure how to handle. We all have to remember that our way is not the only way. It looks smart to they forward the email and pass the phrase down Jacobs Ladder. })(window, document); 2023 TextRanch, LLC. This is a kind phrase, as you are politely ensuring their comfort, while also offering any further assistance if deemed necessary. We had a parking procedure in place for a long time that the last person out the door at midnight parked in a specific spot where the security camera could see that person leave the building, walk to their car, and get in. The editors' comments are helpful and the customer service is amazing. Its lazy. Please advise, like a lot of things, is one of those generic polite statements that can become really snarky depending on the context and the person using it. I am way too informative. Yes, sounds good to me. Like We had someone call from a company trying to sell us a bridge, so I took their name and number and told them someone from the bridge purchasing department would call them back. Is it yes to option 1, 2, or 3? Me too. The phrase that drives me right up the wall is please do the needful. Request you to note the dates and let us know the way forward. Research indicates, however, that including "don't know" options actually produces more problems than it solves. I typically would just say, This is a/Another reminder to please make sure you have X and Y done today. Try these: Yes, Wednesday suits me fine? Im good at sussing this out now, but for the first year I was in this role, I found it really challenging. Is it really a good use of their time to work on a solution that will likely be less effective and will end up being thrown away in favor of your solution anyway? Sure, but it presumes that theyll agree to your request. I counted 154 times in one period. Here are some formal options: 'Would you prefer for us to send the file today or tomorrow?' 'Please tell me whether you would like the file sent today or tomorrow.' 'Is it preferable for the file to be sent today or tomorrow?' 'Please contact us in regards to the preferred delivery date of the file. Its gold when paired with and kindly revert. Because that essentially says, please do this, then undo everything you just did. One thing you can do, is watch how other people close their emails and steal the best ideas from what you see. I think it takes work to infer anything other than whats written in a work email. Hey boss, just an FYI to keep you in the loop, blah blah blah.. 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